All Over the Guy (2001)

I like the storyline of this show,it attract me so much

The film makes a home in your brain and the only cure is to see it again.

The story, direction, characters, and writing/dialogue is akin to taking a tranquilizer shot to the neck, but everything else was so well done.

It is a whirlwind of delight --- attractive actors, stunning couture, spectacular sets and outrageous parties. It's a feast for the eyes. But what really makes this dramedy work is the acting.

Well acted, well made, believable movie. Apparently didn't get the wide distribution it deserved. Treated its subject with honesty humor, and seriousness. If it was a boy-girl movie would, unfortunately, have received more of an audience, but would have lacked the punch that it being a male-male relationship afforded. A sure sign that homosexual subject that would have been taboo a a couple of decades back now treated openly. Kudos.

Then I thought about this movie. Here's what I liked: two men can be openly gay and live perfectly normal and happy lives without being gay bashed like in every other movie ever made about gay men (the only time one gets beaten up, well sort of, is Tom in the bathroom after the AA meeting); gay men don't have to flame or act like women, because they aren't, they are men and happen to like other men; gay men live lives not so different than straight people, with ups and downs, romantically and otherwise; and the movie didn't have the perfectly clichéd ending most movies have in this genre, that love wins out. Sure, in the end they settled their differences, they talked about their feelings and broke down boundaries. They kissed in the end, they danced, and they got together, but they weren't what either wanted, they were what they needed. They didn't get along because they didn't want to, then they got along because they wanted to, in spite of their differences, not in ignorance, but because they acknowledged their own and each others faults to find each other. Ninety-nine percent of people, gay or straight, go out looking for a Prince Charming or Damsel in Distress, which they will never find. Someone once said to me "people should be patient, because when the right person comes along, they'll fall right in your lap." That's kind of what happened here, that both Tom and Eli had preconceived notions about love and their perfect match, and they discovered it didn't matter what they wanted before, because they found maybe what they needed, and discovered the perfect person is a myth, because no one is perfect, and we'll never find what we dream of. We find what we need, and we fall into each others laps. And the filmmakers never said it would work out, but if it did it would be great, if not we know that whatever happens, things would turn out okay. All this, and I haven't even brought up the psychological issues of the characters, particularly Tom, that though not thoroughly explored, are realistic and thought provoking. And what a way to think, that maybe we can be happy if we're not married to our dream man/woman, in the house with the white picket fence, but perfectly happy with friends, family, and the things in life that can be just as important as love.More importantly, I found that this movie was really realistic in portraying gay men. Most movies show the flamers, just one facet of gay society. The fact is gay men and women are all around us, working regular jobs. They are normal people, just like you, and they don't have to act different or be different because they aren't different. Not in any way that's important anyway. So I raise my glass to Tom and Eli, and say accordingly I thought this movie was excellent, and I give it a rating of ten stars. Rock on! PS-- Not sure if there are any spoilers here, but thought I'd check the box anyway, just in case.

I really loved this movie! I just loved the way the characters Tom and Eli interacted together as well as the way their friends worked to set them up. I could really relate to the frustration and, at times anger, that Eli was going through trying to figure out the mixed messages that Tom was sending him. It was great seeing one of the characters who was having problems coming to terms with his own wish/need for lasting love grapple with his demons and finally allow himself to reach out and touch some real happiness. At the end of the movie I was in tears. This movie has it all: comedy, tragedy, and a heart-wrenching resolution. Every gay person and and their straight friend(s) should see this movie!

Why would a person go back to a person, who kicks them in the teeth, not once, not twice, but over and over again.This film teaches us that in order to find love we must accept abuse (not just forgive it, but fully accept it). Gosh! No wonder my first relationship only lasted ten years. I obviously wasn't embracing my inner masochist.As Bucatinsky's writing debut, there are many wonderful aspects to this film; however, in order to justify the reunion of Eli and Tom, more character development would have been helpful. We are never acquainted with Eli's masochism, in fact, we are led to believe that he is not a masochist, although Tom's psycho-emotional sadism is highly evident.